quote of the day

爱一个人不一定要拥有他，拥有一个人一定要好好爱他
To love is not necessarily to have, to have is necessarily to love

无言 ~ 爱的两种境界

两人相处久了，渐渐出现许多沉默的片刻，是好还是坏？爱情里的无言，可能是两个人相处时最高的层次，也可能是彼此沟通时最坏的状况。



无言，是爱情的一种境界。但是，爱情里的无言，也有两种状况。它的层次可以高到很高；也可以低到很低，情形很不一样。有时候，是因为生闷气，所以不讲话。有时候，并不生气，但就是无话可说。


爱情里的两种无言，有点像质量好坏截然不同的空调。同样都是不滴水，有的是故障，有的是新发明。你总要搞出一身汗来，才会发现错在哪里。也可能会有更惨的情况是，从头到尾，都不知道问题到底出在哪里！


空调品质的最高境界，是「无声胜有声」；但是，爱情里的无言，却可能是两个人相处时最高的层次，也可能是彼此沟通时最坏的状况。

当沉默潜入你和他之间，是好、是坏，你是否能分辨？学习享受安静的片刻，或化解沈闷的危机，都是恋爱时很重要的功课。


幸福是什么？大多数人都只会羡慕别人的幸福，等到自己失去幸福以后，才知道幸福是什么。


原来，幸福并没有一定的模样。烛光前的甜言蜜语，绝对是幸福的一种表情；但寒风中的泪眼婆娑，也可能会是幸福的相貌。


幸福，没有样板。不必看到别的夫妻如胶似漆的样子，就怀疑从来不懂枕边细语的另一伴是不是真的爱你；也不要看到别人金玉满堂的家庭，就担心自己家徒四壁的公寓档不住岁月的风雨。


除了爱在当下、懂得珍惜之外，幸福的秘诀之一，不外乎就是一种坚定的自信，不管情况究竟坏到什么地步的时候，都还相信幸福不曾远离。



即使你曾经因为一时的不小心而与幸福擦肩而过，也不要太早放弃。

美梦破碎之后的人生，将在重建的过程中，重新体验幸福的真谛。只要你相信，幸福的最后结果，虽然成之在天，但幸福的开始，绝对操之在己。更何况，幸福，最可贵的部分，是在努力的过程，不是最后的标的。





给女博友的叮咛：不要羡慕别人，更不要怀疑自己，珍惜拥有，就是幸福。
给男博友的忠告：不要等到功成名就，才回来寻找幸福。现在，就开始经营幸福吧！

what have i been up to these days?

just spending lots of time with my nieces. look at their happy faces - when was the last time u smiled & laughed like that? aren't you jealous?

& oh... were also spending time with kids from church making sweets... :)

oops! disaster!!! mishaps are inevitable... the egg yoke not supposed to be in there, we just need the egg white only. alamak!!! :P

don't give up

got this song from a friend... when I first saw the lyrics, it brought tears to my eyes. so very touching...when I hear the song - I fell in love with it. thanks, KK!

JOSH GROBAN - You Are Loved (Don't Give Up)

Don't give up
It's just the weight of the world
When your heart's heavy
I... I will lift it for you
Don't give up
Because you want to be heard
If silence keeps you
I... I will break it for you
Everybody wants to be understood
Well I can hear you
Everybody wants to be loved
Don't give up
Because you are loved
Don't give up
It's just the hurt that you hide
When you're lost inside
I... I will be there to find you
Don't give up
Because you want to burn bright
If darkness blinds you
I... I will shine to guide you
Everybody wants to be understood
Well I can hear you
Everybody wants to be loved
Don't give up
Because you are loved
You are loved
Don't give up
It's just the weight of the world
Don't give up
Every one needs to be heard
You are loved

一个人生活 或 两个人生活

两个自由的人因爱结合而产生的所谓"摩擦"

我一个人生活时爱做的事，二个人生活时也希望可以做。

如果相遇，你会感到相知，那么，有一种习惯叫做陪伴。如果陪伴，你会感到珍惜，那么，有一种甜蜜叫做存在。

late tribute to mums

Belated Mother's Day wishes to all mothers, grandmothers & mothers/grandmothers to be...
my family only celebrated Mother's Day last nite coz last week my sis was not available.

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Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby...

Somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, normal is History.

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct...

Somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

Somebody said being a mother is boring...

Somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.

Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good"...

Somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices...

Somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.

Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother...

Somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math

Somebody said you can't love the fifth child as much as you love the first...

Somebody doesn't have five children.

Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books...

Somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery...

Somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten or on a plane headed for military "boot camp".

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back...

Somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married...

Somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home...

Somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her...

Somebody isn't a mother.

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THANKS, MUM!!! 妈， 谢谢您！！！

你不會

你不會忘掉我,但你不會再明白我。'

你不會放下我,但你不會再捉緊我。

你不會再見到我,但你不會想像不到我。

你不會再捨棄我,但你不會再把幸福還給我。

你不會再徘徊對與錯,但你不會再知得失有幾多。

你不會再懂承諾的因果,但你不會再走出時間的封鎖。

你不會再失去我,但你不會再來珍惜我。

你不會再留下我,但你不會再走出夢來感動我。

太懂得防備

黃昏的海岸線有種最美的遺憾,那一片天;那一片地;那一點點的累積;要人懷念卻不能留戀。

我分不清解脫中有逃避,我想不通愛憐竟帶上殘忍。是我不夠聰明去理解?還是你神秘的思維一直都未被我開啟?是我太容易放棄?還是你太懂得摧毀?或是我們都太懂得去防備?因此快樂就如此輕易把我們推離。

through the eyes of love

an old, old song that suddenly came to my mind (anyone has the mp3?)

Through the Eyes of Love - Melissa Manchester
(Theme from Ice Castles)

Please, don't let this feeling end
It's everything I am
Everything I want to be
I can see what's mine now
Finding out what's true
Since I found you
Looking through the eyes of love
Now, I can take the time
I can see my life
As it comes up shining now
Reaching out to touch you
I can feel so much
Since I found you
Looking through the eyes of love
And now, I do believe
That even in a storm we'll find some light
Knowing you're beside me, I'm all right
Please, don't let this feeling end
It might not come again
And I want to remember
How it feels to touch you
How I feel so much
Since I found you
Looking through the eyes of love

down down down

when u feel as down as me... what would u do?

lost one, gained one

was supposed to go to Penang frm 28 Apr - 30 Apr. been planning for it for quite some time, but it was cancelled just the day before the trip. sigh!

that's the loss.

the gain was an unexpected trip, planned just 2 days before the day of departure. went to kuantan for a day trip.

that's the gain.

now, i m at least 2 shades darker after coming back from the beach. (can see from the pic!)

i think life is just like that. for every loss, there's a gain. it just very well depends on whether we open our eyes wide enough to see beyond our current circumstance. often, we are blinded by the things that is right in front of us. so much so, we forgot that every cloud has its silver lining.

the trip was actually the first i had w my brother (& his wife & kids). usually my sis (& her hubby & kids) will be there. & sometimes, my mum is there too. from young, me & my brother are not particularly close. could be the age gap - 10 years difference! so i had always felt that he's a big bully.

however, recent events that happen to me has changed my insight. blood is thicker than water. tho i have always known he loves me, i didnt feel it. now, i do! :)

oh... on the tan - anyone has any suggestion for me to recover? coz i hv 1 month to do so, before going off for my next trip. :P