form vs substance

(not originally written by me...)
Would you post the Q - "What am I to you? Friend or girl/boyfriend?"


Maybe, instead of being concerned about form, ie the "official status", it is wiser to just focus on the substance, aspects like communication between us, time together and getting to know each other.

Cause once you post that Q, there is no turning back...so, might as well, just go with the flow & let the relationship/friendship develops at its own pace & time.

On the other hand, I would want to love someone and being loved at the same time - to the point where both of us don't have to worry about the relationship anymore. No worries about girls throwing themselves at him, cause deep down I know they'd be firmly turned down. Being sure we will just continue to grow together & not ever need to go back to the beginning & start all over again.