Thursday, December 28, 2006

purpose driven life

The Purpose Driven Life written by Rick Warren, of which i do have a copy tucked somewhere...
Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!
Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Ms./ Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Ms/Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.
To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions & be the best of what you can be.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.
Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.
Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.
It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!
When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to someone is your time.
Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.
hmmm, since i havent yet make my new year resolution, mayB i finding the book is my new year resolution. :)

this may also mark my last blog entry for the year... so, to all my friends & readers out there: HAPPY NEW YEAR 2007!

Monday, December 25, 2006

an achievement!

over the christmas break, i learnt something new - i learnt to play the melody to theme song of the movie below. i hv no music background (save for those lessons they taught us in primary school during Pelajaran Muzik). i was sitting there in front of d piano, browsing through my nieces' songbooks, i saw the score for this song. i was tinking & tonking, chinking & clinking - calculating the lines & bars & the in-betweens, figuring out which taugeh is for which key on d piano ... i think it took me almost an hour but i did it!


i cant play w both hands, but at least i can play the melody. great! *beams*


听见冬天的离开
我在某年某月醒过来
我想我等我期待未来
却不能因此安排
阴天傍晚车窗外
未来有一个人在等待
向左向右向前看
爱要拐几个弯才来
我遇见谁会有怎样的对白
我等的人他在多远的未来
我听见风来自地铁和人海
我排著队拿著爱的号码牌
我往前飞飞过一片时间海
我们也曾在爱情里受伤害
我看著路梦的入口有点窄
我遇见你是最美丽的意外
总有一天我的谜底会解开


Friday, December 22, 2006

Life is like 一百個髮夾

你能找个理由难过,也一定能找到快乐 ,  
懂得放心的人找到轻松,  
懂得遗忘的人找到自由,  
懂得关怀的人找到朋友,  
天冷不是冷心寒才是寒,  
愿您的心都是暖暖的.......

saw this on my friend's blog - so i copied for your reading pleasure & reflection ... (& mine, too!).

国王有七个女儿,这七位美丽的公主是国王的骄傲。她们那一头乌黑亮丽的长发远近皆知,所以国王送给她们每人一百个漂亮的发夹。    

有一天早上,大公主醒来,一如往常地用发夹整理她的秀发,却发现少了一个发夹,于是她偷偷地到了二公主的房里,拿走了一个发夹。二公主发现少了一个发夹,便到三公主房里拿走一个发夹;三公主发现少了一个发夹,也偷偷地拿走四公主的一个发夹;四公主如法炮制拿走了五公主的发夹;五公主一样拿走六公主的发夹;六公主只好拿走七公主的发夹。于是,七公主的发夹只剩下九十九个。    

隔天,邻国英俊的王子忽然来到皇宫,他对国王说:“昨天我养的百灵鸟叼回了一个发夹,我想这一定是属于公主们的,而这也真是一种奇妙的缘分,不晓得是哪位公主掉了发夹?”  

公主们听到了这件事,都在心里想说:“是我掉的,是我掉的。”

可是头上明明完整的别着一百个发夹,所以都懊恼得很,却说不出。只有七公主走出来说:“我掉了一个发夹。”话

才说完,一头漂亮的长发因为少了一个发夹,全部披散了下来,王子不由得看呆了。  

故事的结局,想当然的是王子与公主从此一起过着幸福快乐的日子。    

为什么一有缺憾就拼命去补足?    

一百个发夹,就像是完美圆满的人生,少了一个发夹,这个圆满就有了缺憾;但正因缺憾,未来就有了无限的转机、无限的可能性,何尝不是一件值得高兴的事!    

人生不可免的缺憾,你怎样面对呢?

逃避不一定躲得过,面对不一定最难受 ;  

孤单不一定不快乐,得到不一定能长久 ;  

失去不一定不再有,转身不一定最软弱 ;  

别急着说别无选择,别以为世上只有对与错,  

许多事情的答案都不是只有一个,  

所以我们永远有路可以走。

Thursday, December 21, 2006

Magic of Christmas

Wishing all -


A wonderful Christmas & a great New Year.

I have always thought of Christmas time, when it has come round, as a good time; a kind, forgiving, charitable time; the only time I know of, in the long calendar of the year, when men and women seem by one consent to open their shut-up hearts freely, and to think of people below them as if they really were fellow passengers to the grave, and not another race of creatures bound on other journeys.
~Charles Dickens


解脱

如果你是認真的想對我好:
1) 你不會像個瘋子一樣 - 失去所有理智﹐威脅我
2) 你會放開我﹐然後再追回我

你在此吵鬧﹐ 倒不如你好好的靜下來思考﹐ 反醒。

機會在你面前時 - 你不珍惜。 當牠流失了﹐ 你才說你要還回 - 是不是太晚了? 不是我絕情﹐ 但是我實在太累了。 我也是很傷。 我想找回我自己的幸福。 你也該釋放自己﹐去找你的幸福。 這樣對我們雙方都好。

Sunday, December 3, 2006

do you love me? 「你爱我吗?」

问世间-情为何物?
爱情是颗浓浓的奶糖,让人回味无穷
爱情是一杯酸酸的醋,让人常常觉酸
爱情是邪恶的罂粟花,让人刺目妖娆
爱情是杯香醇的咖啡,让人想要慢品


为什么女人总爱问她的男人「你爱我吗」这个问题?

缺乏安全感似乎是女人天生的恐惧。

电影《死亡魔法The Prestige〕中的女主角最爱问男主角这个问题,问了又问,总是不停的问,永不满足。

她说她知道当男主角回答她这个问题的时候,是真情还是敷衍。每一次她问这个问题,她总是在期待著他的回答,有时候她会很开心,因为她知道他说的是真话;但有时候她又会非常难过,因为她知道他在说谎,他并不爱她。但即使有时候当他告诉她,他很爱很爱她,而她又知道他是真心的,她仍会感到难过,因为她当时心里明白,他们之间的爱快要变成往事。当爱已经或是快要变成往事,此刻的一句「我很爱你」反而更加撩人心碎。

女人为什么总爱问男人「你爱我吗」?

其实女人想要的不是男人的一句「我爱你」,因为女人知道大部分有良心的男人,都会回答女人一句「我爱你」,因为男人知道这是女人最爱听的一句话,因为男人怕麻烦,因为男人知道简单的一句「我爱你」,代表在一段短时间内,他会有好日子过。为了有好日子过,为了耳根清静,为了无谓看见女人哭哭啼啼,简单地回答一句「我爱你」不就皆大欢喜了吗?

可惜男人并不知道,女人其实并不是从他的口中得到她想知道的答案。因为女人知道男人天生是说谎的高手,男人说的话并不可靠,因此每一次当她问男人「你爱我吗?」的时候,女人早已暗中布下天罗地网,全方位观察男人的反应,要从他的身体语言去从旁推敲,验证他说话的真伪。
在这个重要的时候,女人会怔怔地看着男人,认真地直视男人的眼睛,留意他脸上任何细微的表情变化。炽热的视线,紧紧地逼视著男人,完全不要让男人的灵魂有任何喘息的机会。唯有直视男人的眼睛,她才能看到一个她想要进入的世界,这个世界被男人所笼罩著,而如果幸运的话,在他的眼里她可能会看到闪烁著真正的温柔,男人眼神隐含的温柔往往更胜千言万语。

只是到头来女人为什么总爱问男人「你爱我吗」?

这其实是一个不重要的问题,答案是甚么,你心底确切明白。马家辉说:「许多时候,当我们要发问的时候,总是其实自己早已知道答案。许多问题也就等同于答案,当事人只是想向对方再确认一遍,透过提问的形式,因为假如直接说出,连自己都会觉得脸红」

爱情从来都不由人,他今天可以说爱你,明天也可以说我不再爱你。与其问男人「你爱我吗?」,女人其实应该问自己「我快乐吗?」。要知道他虽然爱你,郄不代表你一定会很快乐。唯有正视自己的感受,才能从爱情的困局中得到真正的解脱,重返心里的一片蔚蓝海岸。

女人,甚么时候你才学会不再苦苦纠缠于「你爱我吗?」这个问题?

Friday, December 1, 2006

look, snake in d house!

...but luckily not in my house. pretty near, tho'...

real case -
as i was stepping out of my condo this morning, heading to the car park - there was a SNAKE in d middle of the road. i was caught frozen by d roadside. scary!!!

it's not lying there sleeping, it held its head up high. i dunno d species, it's not really big... but size doesnt matter if it's poisonous.

luckily there were 2 gardeners around, one of them took a swing at it - & i dunno, whether d snake fainted or died. so, i quickly rush to d car park, got my car & left for work.

thank goodness i dont live on d ground floor... i dun think snakes can climb up to 12th Floor, can they? unless it takes the lift, then that's another story...